How do you prepare and enjoy yourself and ensure that you are going to have a great time, even before you get to your dinner party?
Well here you will find a few simple tricks that may help you prepare and enjoy yourself. If you are the lucky sort of person who is completely and utterly at ease with yourself and others in social situations you may want to skip this page.
But, if you are like most of us you will, to a greater or lesser degree, feel at least a little bit nervous or apprehensive about attending a dinner party, especially if it's your first one.
So it's important to prepare and enjoy yourself and to focus on how to make yourself feel relaxed and confident in any dinner party environment. O.K. I hear you say,"How do I do that"?
Try this little experiment that I have used on myself in the past, and still do from time to time. It seems to work quite well for me, so give it go and see if it helps you in any way! All you have to lose is a little bit of time and hopefully some of your inhibitions.
First find a quiet place to sit and relax where you won't be disturbed and turn off your phone.
Close your eyes and relax (but don't go to sleep). A good way to get relaxed is to count backwards very slowly from ten down to zero to yourself.
At the same time let any stray thoughts that come into your mind just drift through and out again.
The counting just lets you focus more easily on clearing your mind of any distracting thoughts that may crop up.
Now you are relaxed you are going to visualise in your mind all the good and positive things that you can think about yourself and dismiss immediately any negative thoughts that creep in.
Decide and tell yourself that you are going to have a great time and that other people really like you and you like other people.
Decide to dump and leave behind any prejudices that you may have about yourself or other people.
Decide and tell yourself that meeting new people or old friends, even if they are very different to you is great fun and an exciting journey or adventure of discovery.
It's important to try and feel good about yourself while you are doing this exercise.
If you find it a bit difficult then simply stop, go make yourself a cup of coffee and try and remember something from your past that did make you feel happy, relaxed and confident, then start again!
If you can't remember anything, make something up instead. Try and feel the emotion and concentrate on how good it feels. Picture that for a while then return to the exercise, taking those good feelings with you.
This may sound weird, but stay with me: Now simply imagine every aspect of the dinner party in detail and it going exactly as you would like it to.
The more detailed you make it the better. As you go through the evening in your mind make every image and sound you create in your mind perfect in every way. Concentrate on how good you feel and how relaxed you are in other people's company.
Take your time doing this and really use your imagination, let it run wild. This can turn into quite an enjoyable experience if you let it.
Refuse to entertain any negative ideas at all, just think of the positives. You might think this is all a bit odd, but with a bit of time and practice you can make a huge difference to your self-confidence and how your evening will go for you in reality.
Obviously the party won't go exactly as you imagine it to, but you will be much better placed to have a really good time, feeling relaxed and confident as you prepare to enjoy yourself.
All you are doing is making yourself believe how wonderful a time you are going to have, and how confident you will be by creating a positive mental image in your own mind.
I like the saying that goes "whether you believe you can, or whether you believe you can't, you are probably right." So simply prepare and enjoy!
It was said of Bruce Lee by his friends that "when Bruce was in a good mood he refused to let anyone pull him out of it." I like that! So whether you try this exercise or not, the most important thing is that you decide to enjoy yourself! So just spending a little time now, in order to prepare and enjoy your dinner party, is time well spent!